We are close to the eldest (the expecting mother) after a long campaign
on her part to get the family moved to Portland with her! :) The younger
also actually enjoys being close and spending time with us, but has a
unique internship in Sonoma that she wants to pursue. I suspect that
when the year is up she may well move back to Portland. Our girls have
always seemed to enjoy spending time with us. The eldest (Rachel) phones
my wife pretty much everyday at lunch, and has for years. The younger
(Epiphany) is a bit more independent in some ways and we won't hear from
her for days at a time! :)
I know what you mean about some children needing to live further from
their parents though. A bonus for both Linda & I is that Portland is
further away form our familys of origin. (Not just parents, but siblings
as well!) One brother of mine has spent the majority of his adult life a
fair distance from the rest of the family and even though living fairly
close I have not spent a lot of time or visited all that frequently with
my mother or my siblings. I did visit my father more frequently when he
was still alive.
We are certainly hoping to have the opportunity to do a little
'visiting' while Epiphany is in Sonoma!
Jim Couch
On 9/28/2011 9:20 PM, Moose wrote:
> On 9/24/2011 8:53 AM, Jim Couch wrote:
>> Being close to our daughters (and an upcoming granddaughter) is what
>> prompted Linda& I to move from Tacoma to Portland this summer. Alas one
>> daughter is headed south to Sonoma after the first of the year.
> It has been my observation that some children simply need to live at some
> distance from their parents. I make no
> judgment as to what issues may cause this to be so, or what combination of
> parental and children's issues may be
> involved. But I've seen it quite often.
>
> Not always the case. I've lived all my within 10 minutes of where I grew up
> and my parents lived 'til they died. A close
> friend is delighted that her parents moved from Maine to be near her here.
>
> Yet I knew a fellow who lived in Katmandu. He loved his mother in upstate NY,
> but needed to live as far away from her as
> he could, while still doing what engaged him.
>
> I know a young fellow who was a mousy, quiet, depressive kid until he found a
> girlfriend who moved, and pulled him 3,000
> miles away from his parents. He has simply blossomed in a way I couldn't have
> imagined possible. I'm afraid his parents
> will move near him (only child) when his mother retires. I think it would be
> bad, and might chase him away again. BTW, I
> like both parents and child, myself.
>
> I have no idea what the situation with your kids is. I only suggest that
> sometimes chasing children and grandchildren
> doesn't work.
>
> OTH, Sonoma is really nice. :-)
>
> Moose
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